As a single woman it was long my habit to talk out loud when trying to figure out a problem or make a decision. I wanted the pros and cons to dialogue, to each present their case. Even when it wasn’t a question of a “bad” decision vs. a “good” one, it still felt a little like the classic angel on one shoulder and devil on the other.
Over the years I’ve become aware of a different dialogue – one between my Fearful Self and my Wise Self. I believe we all have both, and both stand ready to guide us. Fearful Self wants me to be protected, to avoid change and risk, to not trust others, and to be able to define life in terms of black and white, of right and wrong, of good and bad.